The Fragile First Intitutuion

Psalm 127:1 Unless the Lord builds the house,the builders labor in vain.Unless the Lord watches over the city, the guards stand watch in vain.

Before countries, cities, neighborhoods or churches God instituted marriage and being that satan is always trying to sabotage everything that God holds dear is no surprise that he is attacking marriage in this days. 

According to the latest statistics divorce is on the rise, in these times it is much easier to submit an application for divorce that fight to save a marriage. The average length of a marriage is seven years, and one of every two marriages ends in divorce. What is alarming about this is what happens after the divorce. The divorce causes trauma to the two affected and in case of having children these are affected even more. According to the writer Jeannette Lofas only 45% of children outgrow satisfactorily the divorce of their parents. The divorce of a couple brings pain to their loved ones and many times it creates wounds that are impossible to heal. One of the reasons that divorce causes pain in children is that at least one of the parents will give them less attention and in many cases this will happen on the part of both parents. Divorce also causes fear among those who have experienced with their loved ones and this is one of the main causes of the increase of civil unions. What is the key to avoid all of this?

The Bible states that the first institution was marriage, the family and that is exactly what Satan wants to destroy. The key to a lasting marriage is to make a essential part of it the one who instituted it. When you find someone that you know is faithful to God is much more possible that they may be faithful to us. The Bible says that God has to be the one who builds our projects and who the one to protect the,, and the marriage has to be a lifelong project. If you're not thinking of getting married I would recommend that before looking for a spouse you look for God, if you're thinking about getting married asks God to the build your marriage and if you are already married I would like to ask you who saves your marriage?

In this times the institution of marriage is becoming fragile, it is hard to find young people committing to marriage. I usually read an entertainment magazine once a week, the magazine features news of marriages and divorces, I'll have to say that in the last two years I have seen far more divorces that marriages and when I do see marriages it usually see far more gay marriages than man and woman marriages. We have to learn to build our marriage on the solid rock, not in sand.

Alarming Statistics of Divorce

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The alarming statistics of divorce

Fifty percent (50%) of American families today corresponds to second marriages.

The average duration of a current marriage is seven (7) years, and one of every two marriages ends in divorce.

Seventy-five percent (75%) of people who divorce remarry. However, approximately sixty-six percent (66%) of the couples second marriage, with children from his first marriage, are separated.

Fifty percent (50%) of the sixty million children under 13 living with only one biological parent and their new partner.

Fifty percent (50%) of women are linked to a blended family, as mothers or wives of men with children.

Two of three first marriages of couples under thirty (30) years ending in divorce. 8 A study by Boston University reported that seventy-five percent (75%) of professional women who married a divorced man with children say, "If I had to make the decision again, NOT marry me a man who had children. "

Forty-one percent (41%) of the children of separated parents are fearful, aggressive, have low self-esteem and have difficulties in behavior or school performance. Only forty-five percent (45%) of children successfully overcome the divorce of their parents.

Fifty percent (50%) of women and thirty percent (30%) of men remains aggressive with her ex after divorce.

During the first period of divorce, parents have less time to spend with your children and are emotionally least able to support them and discipline them.

Some parents divorced initially lead a disorderly life difficult for them to continue to exercise their role as parents as they did before the separation.
"Only forty-five percent (45%) of children successfully overcome the divorce of their parents"

 Some parents divorced initially lead a disorderly life difficult for them to continue to exercise their role as parents as they did before the separation.

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Band aids

Psalms 147:3 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

I believe in Matthew 11:25 when Jesus declares that the mysteries are hidden from the wise and revealed to little children. God talks to my using my children, Every time my daughter scrapes her knee or gets a little cut in the skin she asks for a band aid, once as I gave her the band aid I asked if she needed help, she said "yes" so I helped, soon as I was done putting the band aid on her little finger she started fixing it apparently I didn't do a good job, I help her fix it and ask her if everything was better, she replied "yes, I you don't see it, it don't hurt" that made me think how different children are from adults, we of course know that the wounds we can't see are the ones that hurt the most. betrayal, lies, and that kind of wounds are more difficult to heal than a scrape in the knee. Luckily there is one that specializes in healing this kind of wounds.

We have the habit of putting a band aid over our wounds to hide them away so nobody sees them and even if they heal they leave a scar, but we don't have to hide them and we don't have to live with the scar. Depression, sadness, need for love, it doesn't matter how wounded  your heart and your soul are, God wants to heal them, he won't just put a band aid over it so people won't see it, he will make it heal and will leave you scar free. Let him treat your wound, let him take care of you.

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